I had posted a comment in a Facebook group to get discussions started. One of the first comments was very condescending toward me. and he continued to post more that made me feel about an inch tall. The result? The offending person was ganged up on by the other members and left the group. Another one who did the same was outed by the moderator. You don’t want to be blackballed or blocked from groups because of your behavior. Being rude gets you nowhere you want to be.
When you need help promoting a book or want to invite people to an event, you might ignored by the very people you need if you have been rude to them in the past or if they have witnessed any rudeness by you. Always be polite. So what is rude? Maybe we should dive into that.
According to Webster’s Dictionary, being rude is defined as “not having or showing concern or respect for the rights and feelings of other people : not polite; : relating to sex or other body functions in a way that offends others; : happening suddenly in usually an unpleasant or shocking way.” That covers quite a bit.
Respect others in the online groups/forums and on their own pages/walls. If you don’t like their opinion, the best thing is not say anything. If you do have to say something, then make sure it is respectful. Don’t call them names or demean them.
Also, monitor your language. Not everyone accepts crude or cuss words as part of their everyday vocabulary. Monitor your audience and be professional. In a casual atmosphere, it doesn’t usually phase me. But when someone is trying to network with me, I see them as unprofessional when they drop the F-bomb and not serious about their job.
Are you a professional? Then make sure you are always polite and treat others with high respect.