Know the old saying about ‘wearing your feelings on your sleeve’? That means you have your feelings out where everyone can easily influence them. In networking, having your feelings out there can cause a lot of drama.You just can’t be too sensitive as you network.
Signs of Being too Sensitive
Too often people don’t realize that they are being too sensitive. I’m not saying that you are not justified in your feelings, but sometimes when we react immediately, the feelings aren’t always the wisest to expose. So, how do you know if you are being too sensitive?
When your feelings are on your sleeve, you are always reacting in an emotional state. If you’re not angry, you are hurt and insulted. There is always someone offending you. This never turns out good for anyone especially if you are networking.
Having your feelings so exposed will always result in something bad. Trust me. I know from personal experience. Being too sensitive means you react before you can rationalize. Let’s say that you read a comment on one of your posts. You get angry immediately. If you dash off a hasty and harsh reply, you might have slammed the door on someone who could be beneficial to you down the road. It’s even worse when you read the comment later and realize that you totally misinterpreted it. Yikes!
In networking, you have to toughen your skin and tuck your feelings back inside where they need to reside most of the time. If people tick you off, evaluate your actions first and decide if you are going to react at all. Remember that most times it is better to ignore nasty comments and move on.
Also, keep in mind that others are watching you. Rise above and stand out.
Most people who wear their feelings on their sleeves do so naturally. It is just who they are, but it doesn’t mean you can’t change that or make it a stronger asset instead of a liability. It takes practice, but I am a testament to the fact that it can happen.
Take deep breaths. When you read something that gets you upset, take a deep breath. Don’t respond immediately. That never works out well even if you are justified.
Talk to someone. Vent about your feelings. Once you do that, you might find that you don’t need to react at all. If you should, the person can help you do so in a much calmer way.
Always step back. Walk away and revisit it. You may never stop having your feelings immediately affected, but you can find ways to not let them hinder your networking.