Drama is basically blowing things out of proportion. It is making a mountain out of a mole heel. It is over reacting. Sometimes you don’t realize it is there until you step out of it. Being right in the middle of it makes it hard to see the drama for what it is. Let’s look at some examples to see as that usually helps people recognize the drama easier.
Someone misreads a post. Starts going off about it everywhere. People get riled up. Next thing you know there is a virtual mob. Drama! Should have talked to the person who did the initial post and discover the true meaning of post. More than likely was nothing bad.
Customer doesn’t return messages, then complains that the service provider didn’t do what was asked in a timely manner. Provider offers to reimburse, but customer gives incorrect email address and other info so payment can’t be completed. Drama ensues when customer bashes provider online and changes the facts to look good. Now provider is getting nasty messages from people they don’t about a situation they really know nothing about.
One person posts quotes about things that should be private and gets everyone on their friends’ list upset and talking smack about someone they may or may not know. First off, no one is a hundred percent confident that the quotes are accurate. And then they don’t know the whole story.
These are things you should really avoid.
How to Avoid
It’s not always easy to avoid drama. Trust me, I’ve tried. At times, it seems like it hunts you down and corners you so it pounce. Yes, there are days like that. But there are some ways to minimize your exposure.
The best thing you can do is walk away. When the drama starts, distance yourself. Remember that shrapnel can only fly so far. Get as far away as you can. Don’t participate in the comments. Don’t share anything. If asked, say no comment and stay away. Drama loves to suck people in. Put on that armor and don’t let it.
Shut the Door
When the drama is targeted at you, just walking away can be hard. This is the pouncing. Can’t be avoided, but you can shut the door on it.
Make a statement that the topic is private or that if anyone wants to discuss it they can private message you. You can even say that it is no one else’s business, and they need to butt out. Don’t respond to comments. Make a blanket statement and leave it alone. You’ll come out with less mud on you this way.
Sometimes you have to cut some ties. Drama queens like to find groups where they can flourish. When you see too much drama occurring in a group, you might want to consider leaving it. By being a member, you’ll inherit the stigma of drama queen just by association. There are other groups. Look for drama free ones.
There comes a time when you have to cut ties with individuals. It can be hard but so worth it to avoid the drama. Start off with blocking their posts on your timeline. You don’t have to unfriend them to do this on most sites. You can just say that you don’t want to see what they post. Then you can visit their page when you want to and catch up on things. If that doesn’t work, unfriend them. Avoid them. I’ve had some who tagged me on drama posts even after blocking. Unfriending was next. When they tried to message me, I ignore them after I’ve explained what I don’t like about their drama. They will keep coming as they have to have drama on and off the public viewing. And watch it! They’ll screen print what you say and share it.
Monitor Your Words/Actions
Be careful what you say especially if you know drama is brewing. Even your most innocent comments can either create drama or fuel it. I posted a general statement observation online. Someone who likes to create drama especially if I’m involved took it to mean her and began whispering to others how I was treating her so badly and posting my feelings online. Really? I unfriended her eventually because anything I said no matter how much I monitored it she took personally.
Be clear that you don’t like drama. State that you’ll remove it if you see it or at least report, depending on your authority. Follow through. Don’t be weak when it comes to friends. Drama is drama and never plays out well for those involved.